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Thursday, December 07, 2006

Bad hair day

Posted by Susan

I’m having a hair crisis. I realize that compared with the really big stuff going on in the world, “crisis” is probably an exaggeration, but it’s been on my mind.

Currently, I’m hating my hair. This is a fairly common thing for me. The curls…big yuck. I always wanted long, straight hair. At this point, I would accept something short and fluffy, but cute. But the curls are a nightmare. It’s like the tightest perm ever, in the history of the universe. A perm than never, ever grows out. It’s also really fine. I have a ton of hair but the individual strands are not meaty.

I confess I’m really lazy when it comes to my hair. I’m not wild about the idea of having to blow it straight every day, after my shower, then use a bunch of other tools and product to get it all fluffy and cute. Plus, we’re now living in Seattle. Not exactly the place to avoid humidity. Still, my current routine takes all of…45 seconds. So I should be willing to put in a little more time.

In truth, I have to do something. My hair is nearly to my shoulders and heading toward that unfortunate “yield sign” shape. If I knew someone fabulous to cut my hair I would be willing to risk something new, but fabulous stylists are very hard to find. I tend to walk away disappointed.

I changed the color a few months back. Went darker. The blond was too challenging with my skin color. I was starting to fade away. Now I’m kind of a medium brown and it’s much kinder to my skin.

So I’m at a loss. Any suggestions? More highlights? Shorter? Sacrifice my free time and blow dry every day? I want to hear if you hate your hair, too. We’ll form a club!

13 Comments:

At 7:16 AM, Anonymous Kim said...

Susan!

I can totally relate to hating your hair. When I had Max (son #3)almost 4 years ago--he sucked all of the moisture out of my body, my hair--everywhere! I used to get perms and my hair had cute waves--now my hair is long and stringy.

This is my plan: everything comes back into style--right? I am currently waiting for the hairstyles of the late 60's-70's to come back into style. LONG AND STRAIGHT AS A STICK AND STRINGY!

Sign me up! "Oh, Crap--I am already on the list!"

*sigh*

Oh well, have a good day!

I am freezing--it is only 1 degree here this morning!

 
At 7:30 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Susan - I don't have the curls, but I use to have the frizz. (After my kids, my hair has changed) Going crazy and not wanting to spend the time straightening, I went and got it professionally straightened. It is called a Japanese straighten. It was both wonderful and awful. My hair was that great, perfectly straight hair I always wanted. Only problem, it was always straight. Didn't feel right. Now after my second child, my hair is getting a bit frizzy again, but my daughter has curls and so I think I will keep the waves and the frizz. I would like her to actually like her hair. I know impossible, but I figure if I keep some curls it may help her.

Cady

 
At 8:09 AM, Blogger Kate Carlisle said...

I feel your pain, Susan!! I am completely obsessed with my hair. Seriously, the title of my website bio should be "It's All About the Hair."

I grew up with really great straight hair but at some point in my life, it started getting coarse and wavy and weird!! Oh, and then one day it turned blond! It was like an act of God! And as you said, the wrong shade of blond will completely wash out my skin tone, so it's tricky and time consuming, trying to get it right.

My ideal hairstyle would be the style Kelly McGillis wore in TOP GUN. It's curly but casual and sexy and cute, much like myself. **G**

 
At 8:24 AM, Blogger Susan Mallery said...

Kim--hugs on the temps and the hair. Cady--one of my hairdressers told me to get pregnant--that my hair would go straight. It didn't seem like a good enough reason to have a baby!!

The Japanese straighening scares me. The growing out part. I'm picturing stick-straight ends and nasty curls at the roots. Very weird.

Kate--your hair is adorable, just like you!

I liked Oprah's hair last year. The big soft tumbly curls. I asked about it and was told I would have to straighten my hair, use the flat iron, then curl it in big rollers. Sure--because I have an extra 3 hours in my day!

 
At 8:26 AM, Blogger Christine Rimmer said...

I think we all hate our hair. People who don't are probably aliens--not that there's anything wrong with being an alien. Except everyone will hate your incredible hair.

Only advice I have is to go on the hunt. Take some of your copious free time (Hah!) and go get the stylist for you. That's what I did. I had to go through like ten of them. Seriously. I would sometimes go get my hair cut two days in a row when the cut on the first day was too horrible. My hair was getting REALLY short. Then at last, I found Jimmy. I couldn't live without Jimmy. Sometimes I like his cuts better than others. But it's all relative. Even when I "hate" a cut, it's something I can live with now

And if you remember, I took your advice and followed him when he moved to the city miles away. I drive up there every 5-6 weeks, in heavy traffic. For Jimmy and his genius. It's so worth it.

The way I found him, is I finally just started calling salons and saying, "Who's your best cutter? Do not lie to me." Finally, someone said Jimmy.

I spend maybe four minutes on my hair a day, just blowing it dry by aiming a hair dryer at it. And as a rule, I love it.

And no, I'm not an alien. Mwahaha.

 
At 8:57 AM, Blogger Dana Diamond said...

I wish I could help.

My first thought was the straightening. Maybe a perm with fatter rollers to keep your curls, but give you softer ones?

I don't know, but I have a great stylist...who's in Orange County.

I'll ask her for you when I see her next.

:) dana

 
At 9:15 AM, Blogger Maureen Child said...

Susan, I feel your pain. From the other side of the coin......my hair's fine and stick straight. Won't hold a curl for longer than a few minutes. Hair spray can't defeat it, mousse is helpless against it...pitiful, really.

 
At 9:18 AM, Blogger Christine Rimmer said...

PS--Cady and Kim. When I had the J, my hair mostly fell out. It was so gross and I was so freaked.

It did grow back, but...argh. To be post-preggo with hair that looks like I'm in some kind of weird non-avian molting season.

Yucccch.

 
At 11:46 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I WANT ALL OF YOU WHO HAVE NATURALLY CURLY HAIR TO STOP WHINEING ABOUT IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ALL MY LIFE MY HAIR HAS BEEN FINE,
THIN AND STICK STRAIGHT. WHEN I SEE SOMEONE WITH NATURALLY CURLY HAIR I AM SO JEALOUS OVER IT, SO
SUSAN FIND A STYLIST EVEN IF YOU HAVE TO GO TO 20 OF THEM, HAVE IT CUT SO ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS BRUSH IT AND WALK OUT THE DOOR, YOU LUCKY DEVIL...............

SALLYE, MAUREENS MOM

 
At 11:55 AM, Blogger Christyne Butler said...

Oh, add me to this club! My hairdresser had to quit last year and I've not been able to replace yet...but I continue to try.

Mine is sorta curly...wavey is a better way of saying it I guess and the only way to control it is to wear it short. But at times I convince myself to grow it out...yeah that last until I realize the amount of work it takes to blow it out...whew!

Oh, and on a totally different note...my blog is up and running.

Sort of.

But at least the picture is nice to look at. If you want to take a look I'll paste the link...I think...not sure how this works...

http://christynebutler.blogspot.com/

Or maybe you can just click on my picture or my name. Can you tell I am still really new at this?

Now...back to the website designing.

sigh

 
At 12:42 PM, Anonymous spyscribbler said...

Ughhh! Boy, do I hear you!!! I haven't found a haircut that works for me since I, uh, gained a couple pounds.

Btw, I find that dark brown hair looks better messyish than blonde hair (or in my case, dishwater blonde with white and gray highlights). By messy I mean, air-dried wavy hair. *grins*

Of course, there's always standing with the hair dryer straightening it, for thirty minutes every day. I don't think so!

 
At 3:02 PM, Blogger Christie Ridgway said...

Oh, hair is a biggie. I had a great stylist for years who moved to a looong drive away and I had to change. But then, but then she came back! It was still a longer drive than the new person and more expensive, but Surfer Guy, who never says anything but "looks nice" told me, "Um, go back to Sue Ellen."

I listened.

She changes my color around during the year. Darker at this time and lighter in the summer. Keep searching for the perfect person, Susan. I know cutting for your kind of curl takes someone who really knows what they're doing.

Maureen's mom: That is SO what my mom would say. Her hair is stick-straight too.

 
At 5:44 PM, Blogger Kate Carlisle said...

Ooh Christyne, that IS a nice picture to look at!! LOL.

Congrats on the blog! Let us know when you're officially up and running and I'll stick a link on mine to yours!

 

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